市面上有很多关于当代领导素质的书籍和课程,其中讲述了各种需要去培养的美德:要有耐心而不急躁;要真诚而不肤浅;要有同理心,不对他人的困扰和问题漠然置之;要心胸开阔,不狭隘;要弃绝,不自恋;要知足,不轻易被迷惑、妥协;人应该活得正直学会原谅,而不是紧抓怨恨不放手。上述一切都是应该知晓的。这就是领导力。 然而,除非建立起强大的基石,将这些价值观建在基石上,否则人不可能顶住这世界的诱惑和压力。我们看周围的人,有多少精英以其不可思议的方式引领着世界,但仅仅因为诱惑就毁掉了人生。一个小小的诱惑,人的事业、荣誉和人生都毁于一旦。有句话说,站得越高,塌得越重。事实是,一个人得到一个丰裕的职位,就会有更多的人想要毁掉他。无论你是工人、学者还是精神领袖,位置越高,嫉妒你的人就越多。 因此,现在的问题是,如何增强我们品质的基石,让我们成为一个真正的领导者。这并不是你能从教科书上学到的。你能学到一些品质,能记住它们,也许会习练它们,并将它们用于你的人生,这样做很好。但是如果你将宏伟的高楼建在沙土上,它也许会屹立一段时间,风暴来临时,它会倒塌,因为没有真正的基石。我们应该将人生和品质建立在一个强大的基石之上,即:基于真理的真诚、价值和原则的基石。这样一来,不管我们的人生发生什么,我们也不会妥协。当人生价值的基石与大自然的法律协调一致,我们会与自己永恒的本质和谐共存。 现在,怎么得出这个结论的呢?通过灵性的习练,通过我们的经历和对真理的觉悟,通过我们的哲学、科学,去辩证,去说服自己,继续保持耐心,而不是急躁,用我们的同理心,而不是对他人的遭遇冷漠置之不理,拥有正直,而不是为短暂的利益而妥协,拥有包容,而不是怨恨。 Therearemanybooksandcoursesonmodernleadershipqualities,wheretheyspeakaboutvariousvirtuesoneshouldcultivate:patienceratherthanimpatience,genuinityratherthansuperficiality,compassionratherthanneglectandapathyforthesufferingsandproblemsofothers。Oneshouldbebroadmindedratherthannarrowminded,detachedratherthanattachedtotheego,selfcontentratherthanpronetofallvictimtotemptationsandtocompromise。Oneshouldlivewithintegrityandlearntoforgiveratherthanholdgrudges。Onewouldhaveheardallthesethings。Thisisleadership。 However,unlessonebuildsastrongandrealfoundationtobuildthesevaluesupon,onewillnotbeabletowithstandthetemptationsandthepressuresofthisworld。Weseeallaroundushowpeopleinelitepositions,whocouldreallyhaveledtheworldinsuchincredibleways,haveruinedtheirlivesbyjustgivingintotemptations。Onelittletemptationandone’scareer,reputationandlifeisallruined。Thereisasaying,Thebiggertheyare,thehardertheyfall。Andthefactis,whenonegetsapositionwhereoneisaffluent,themorepeopletherearewhowanttodestroythatperson。Whetheryouareanindustrial,socialorspiritualleader,thebiggeryouare,themoreyouwillhavepeoplewhowillenvyyou。 So,thequestionweareaskingnowishowtodeveloptherealfoundationofourtruequalitiesthatmakeusarealleader。Thisisnotsomethingthatyouwilllearnintheacademictextbooks。Youmaylearnwhatsomeofthequalitiesareandyoumaymemorizethemandyoumaytrytopracticethemandapplytheminyourlife,andthatisverygood。Butifyoubuildamagnificentmansiononsand,itwillstandforsometime,butwhenthestormcomes,itwillallfall,becausethereisnorealfoundation。Weshouldbuildourlivesandqualitiesonastrongfoundation:afoundationofrealintegrity,valuesandethicsbasedontruth。Then,nomatterwhatcomesinourlife,wewillnotcompromise。Whenthefoundationofourvaluesinlifeisinharmonywiththelawsofnature,wewillliveinharmonywithoureternalnature。 Whenyoubecomealeader,theyopentheirfaith。Inthatstateyoucandothegreatestbenefittothosepeople’slives,butyoucouldalsocausethegreatestpain,anguishanddevastationinthosepeople’slives。SoleadershipisnotaposttoenjoyIfthatisyouridea,thenyouwillbeaveryexploitativepersonandaverymiserableleader。Leadershipisaveryserious,significantresponsibilityofservicetoothers。Arealleaderisinaspiritofservice。And,inordertobeaproperleaderinthatway,onemusthaveknowledgeofwhatisactuallyrightandwhatisactuallywrong。 Now,howdowecometothatpoint?Throughspiritualpractices,bywhichweexperienceandrealizethetruth,bywhichwehaveaphilosophy,ascience,tojustify,toconvinceourselvestocarryonwithpatienceratherthanimpatience,withcompassionratherthanapathytoother’ssufferings,withintegrityratherthancompromisingforsometemporarygain,withforgivenessratherthangrudge。 摘自书籍《TheRealYou》(真正的你) 作者RadhanathSwami